Friday, 5 February 2016

Trans Man With Asperger's Shot Dead By Police, Media Misgenders & Deadnames

A transgender man with Asperger's, who became incredibly well known through the Internet after a touching video of him with his service dog last year, has been shot and killed by police officers in Arizona.

Kayden Clarke, 24 years old, was shot by police officers and later died in hospital after officer were called to his residence for a suicide call.  

According to reports on AZFamily, where they misgender and incorrectly name Kayden, police entered his home and found him with a knife.  Kayden told police that he had a knife and was going to hurt himself.  Police drew their firearms and shot him.

In a statement from Detective Esteban Flores, he said (I apologise in advance, but during this statement Flores repeatedly misgenders Kayden) 'She had one knife that we know of, she had something else we're not sure what it was.  The officer said it was dark inside the room.  When she made contact with them she approached them with the knife, extended it out, and they felt threatened.'

Kayden gained attention last year when he posted a video where he tried to punch himself whilst having an emotional moment and his Rottweiler, Samson, comforts him and stops him from hurting himself.

The video went viral, and Kayden even spoke about the incident and living with Asperger's to The Huffington Post, where he was also misgendered.  Kayden posted frequently about living with Asperger's, as well as posting several videos about his transition.

Kaydens death has been reported on by several websites, but each and every one of them has misgendered him and used the incorrect name.

Kayden was an amazing individual, who tried to shine a light on the struggles that people living with Asperger's face, and he has been shown nothing but disrespect from every single person who has shown no respect for his gender or his identity.

To call Kayden anything other than Kayden, or to refer to him as female spits in the face of his memory, it shows disrespect and it should be called out whenever it is seen.  It's a horrible, disrespectful thing to do and it disgusts me.

As of the moment the officers involved in the shooting have been placed on administrative leave.  Unfortunately they were not wearing body cameras, so we cannot know exactly what happened in Kayden's home, but from all reports it would appear that police officers attended a call for help from someone who was suicidal, someone who made them aware that they had a knife when they arrived and indicated that he only wanted to hurt himself.  In response those police officers shot and killed him.  To me, that sounds like murder.

I'm sure that there will be an investigation into these events, and I hope that the truth comes out and that people face the justice that they deserve, unfortunately people can't even show Kayden enough respect to use the correct name and pronouns, so that kind of justice will probably never come.

Rest in peace Kayden.

#HisNameWasKayden  #RIPKaydenClarke


  1. This story breaks my heart. Kayden fought so many battles. My thoughts and prayers are with Kayden's family as they go through this incredibly difficult time. No one should have to fight all these battles. My heart is just broken.

  2. I don't normally comment on anything on the internet, I don't even have a facebook page, but this one requires a comment. I too struggled most of my life with many of the issues that Kayden struggled, trans, asperger, anxiety, etc...I learned early that "the mental health community" would be of no help to me, only hinder me further. I am now 46 years old, and have been transitioned for many years. Funny thing is, once I started T, almost all of my "mental health" issues (not so) mysteriously went away. I believe this is what the mental health professionals are missing, although I don't see them catching onto that anytime in the future. A word for those who are looking to transition, it's best to look, sound and appear as normal as you possibly can in order to get someone to write you a letter for T. I know it's hard dealing with these issues on your own, and some of us are stronger than others, but try to reach out to available friends and family before seeking "professional" help. Once it is on your record, you will have a heck of a time moving forward. Once you get on T, it is my belief that many of your problems will rectify themselves. Mine certainly did. Just one mans opinion. Sadly, even though the world has opened up more to trans people, we are still recognized as having "mental diseases", and that remains a lot of the problem. My heart goes out to Kayden and his family...a true tragedy.